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Here is an overview and some
of what we've learned during the last 9 years of intense study about the trait
of high sensitivity. Also included, are some tips, tools, and strategies we've
discovered on how to successfully navigate through life when you or someone
important to you has the trait of high sensitivity. And, thank you to Amy
Hallowes for her important contribution and continuing support in this work. We
want HSPs not just to cope with their trait, but to thrive and excel with it!
We've learned highly
sensitive persons or "HSPs" make up 15% to 20% of the population. (People with
the trait of high sensitivity are also sometimes referred to as ultra sensitive
people, or super sensitive people.) HSP's nervous systems are different and are
more sensitive to subtleties in their environment, which can be a good or bad
thing. And because they process and reflect upon incoming information so deeply,
they are more likely to become over stimulated and overwhelmed than Non-HSP.
The popular DVD "Highly Sensitive
People — An introduction to the trait of high sensitivity" is a 65-minute presentation by Jim Hallowes, videotaped on the recent
"Art of Relationships" cruise to Alaska, and includes an overview of the trait,
some of the common characteristics of HSPs, some famous people who exhibit some
of those characteristics, also tips and strategies and HSP self-test. Jim's
special guest is psychotherapist, best-selling author, and HSP, Dr. Pat Allen.
You can click here to view a 7-minute
excerpt, and you can purchase the DVD from our On-Line Gift Store.
Highly sensitive individuals
have often said they feel they are "different" and just don't fit in; we've even
heard some HSPs say they sometimes feel like they're from a different planet.
Being highly sensitive is an
inherited trait, and as we've mentioned before, is described brilliantly in Dr. Elaine Aron's book The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the
World Overwhelms You. This, and her other books, we highly recommend.
We've also learned a great
deal from Psychologist Carl G. Jung's "Psychological Types," Dr. John M. Oldham's
"Sensitive Personality Style," and Dr. Kazimierz Dabrowski's "Theory of Positive
Disintegration."
It is in
highly sensitive person's nature to "pause-to-check" and not to rush into new or
different situations, but rather to proceed much more cautiously than their
Non-HSP counterparts. The trait of highly sensitivity causes them to process and
reflect upon incoming information very deeply. It is not that they are "fearful"
or "afraid," but that it's in their nature to process incoming information so
deeply. Highly sensitive persons may even sometimes need until the next day to
have had enough time to process the information fully, reflect upon it, and
formulate their response.
The trait of high sensitivity
can be viewed as having both positive as well as negative characteristics, and
it is a valid and normal trait and is not a "character flaw" or "disorder."
On the positive side, and
there is a big positive side, we have learned highly sensitive people have
wonderful imaginations, are often very intelligent, creative, curious, and are
known for being very hard workers, great organizers and problem solvers. They
are known for being extremely conscientious and meticulous. HSP are blessed with
being exceptionally intuitive, caring, compassionate and spiritual. They are
also blessed with an incredible aesthetic awareness and appreciation for nature,
music and the arts.
What some HSPs are saying
about Jim.
Here, from a man who attended a recent HSP lecture: "I listened to you describe
me to a 'T.' Shock is the most descriptive word I can use to express my initial
reaction to what you had to say. I have never felt as though I belonged, always
an outcast.... I wept with relief on the way home from your lecture and again
when I pulled up your web site and weep now as I write you. My God, I understand what's
been amiss all of my life, thank you! I no longer feel misunderstood and all
alone, you have given me permission to be me, I can now finally breathe.... There are not sufficient words to express my personal gratitude for the work you've chosen to do." Click here to view a video clip of an HSP who was on a
recent cruise and what she has to say.
Jim Hallowes was joined by Dr. Pat Allen as in-studio guests on the
radio talk show "Shrink Rap" with Host Therapist Phyllis Chase on public radio
station KCSN 88.5 FM, which has been honored with the "Best of LA" award by Los
Angeles Magazine. Jim and Pat discussed the trait of high sensitivity and answer
questions regarding Highly Sensitive People.
The entire half-hour show
can be listened to or downloaded in MP3 format.
Pearl S. Buck, (1892-1973),
recipient of the Pulitzer Prize in 1932 and of the Nobel Prize in Literature in
1938, once said about highly sensitive people:
"The truly creative mind in any field is no more than this:
A human creature born abnormally, inhumanly sensitive.
To him...
a touch is a blow,
a sound is a noise,
a misfortune is a tragedy,
a joy is an ecstasy,
a friend is a lover,
a lover is a god,
and failure is death.
Add to this cruelly delicate organism the overpowering necessity to create,
create, create —— so that without the creating of music or poetry or
books or buildings or something of meaning, his very breath is cut off from him.
He must create, must pour out creation. By some strange, unknown, inward urgency
he is not really alive unless he is creating."
—Pearl S. Buck
There is also a strong correlation between the trait of
high sensitivity and being "Gifted." It is probably accurate to say that
although not all gifted people are highly sensitive, all highly
sensitive people are gifted. And, Dr. Dabroski's "OE" theory is that
people born with overexcitabilities have a higher level of "development
potential" than others and that their overexcitabilities feed, enrich,
empower and amplify their talents.
Aenother interview about
people with the trait of high sensitivity with Jim Hallowes was conducted by
Douglas Eby of Talent Development Resources. Mr. Eby is famous for his many
articles and enlightening interviews with the likes of Patch Adams, M.D., Jodie
Foster, William Hurt, Judith Orloff, M.D., Reese Witherspoon, James Woods, Mimi
Rogers, David Duchovny, and many others. You can listen to the 20-minute
interview that's up on Mr. Eby's Talent Development Resources website: Douglas Eby interview with Jim Hallowes on the trait of high
sensitivity.
Some of the diverse group of
individuals that belong on the list of those who exhibit the characteristics of
the trait of high sensitivity would include: Albert Einstein, Carl Jung, Emily
Dickinson, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Charles Darwin, Abraham Lincoln, Katharine
Hepburn and Spencer Tracy, Woody Allen, Orson Welles, Walt Disney, Ansel Adams,
Nicole Kidman, Steven Spielberg, Jane Goodall, Warren Buffett, Barbara
Streisand, Michael Jordan, Elton John, Bob Dylan, John Lennon, John Denver, Jim
Morrison, Jewel, Alanis Morisette, and Princess Diana, to name a few. And, a
couple of possible HSPs from TV that come to mind include Radar O'Reilly on the
classic sitcom M*A*S*H and currently Adrain Monk, the detective with OCD, on the
series MONK. Some feature films portraying characters that give some insight
into the trait of high sensitivity include: "The Hours," "A Beautiful Mind,"
"The Green Mile," "Amelie," "Hannibal" and "Adaptation."
Jim's Speakers Bureau
friendly website is www.meetJimHallowes.com where you, or your meeting planner,
can watch a 7-minute speaking sample, and also get a list of topics and speech
titles, and get more information on booking Jim to address your group or
organization. Or, have your meeting planner just contact their favorite Speakers
Bureau.
We hope you'll
recognize that the trait of high sensitivity is a gift and blessing,
albeit a gift that can come with a hefty price tag. But, a gift we hope
you'll come to realize is worth every penny of the price.
As we have come to
know, the highly sensitive person's systems are very porous, that is
external stimuli seems to be more directly absorbed into their bodies.
(It has been said that it is as if HSP hardly have any "skin" at all to
protect them from these outside stimuli.) Non-HSP are generally less
porous and have natural defenses which defuse external stimuli thereby
not directly impacting and overloading their nervous systems.
Another way to think about this is to visualize the curve
on a chart: At the point where the Non-HSP would have little or no
stimulation, the HSP would be somewhat stimulated. Where Non-HSP would
be somewhat stimulated, the HSP would be pretty well-stimulated. And,
where the Non-HSP is well-stimulated, the HSP may be reaching, or might
have already reached, a state of being over-stimulated, over-aroused and
overwhelmed, which may manifest itself in highly sensitive people as
getting upset, frazzled or even angry, needing to get away, or possibly
"shutting down" and becoming unable to function.
We have also learned
that although many highly sensitive people are introverts, reserved,
quiet or shy, there is a percentage that are high sensation seekers, or
extroverts. And, although they seek adventure they also get overloaded
and become over stimulated with the same results as the rest of the HSP.
So, if you've ever felt
you were all alone in having these overwhelming feelings and the need to
seek solitude and sanctuary, we hope you find comfort in knowing that
you are not alone, and that you will benefit from some of the
suggestions we present here.
Tip: From our
experience and observations, we have found that people with the trait of
high sensitivity function much better and benefit greatly from having
and sticking to a regular set routine. The daily routine we recommend
includes proper diet and nutrition, exercise, meditation, prayer or
other calming spiritual practices, keeping a daily journal to work through issues,
taking regular breaks, and very important, getting enough
rest and sleep.
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If what
we are saying on this website resonates with you, or sounds like someone in your life, we'd
love to hear from you! Please take a moment to send us an e-mail with your
feelings and thoughts on being highly sensitive, or your experiences being in a
relationship with someone who is highly sensitive. Jim and best-selling author
Rachel Copelan, Ph.D., are currently working on a book about sensitive people
titled: Are You One of the
Highly Sensitive People? The information presented both here, and in the
new book, is based on what we have learned from research, studies, as well as
information gleaned from the thousands of sensitive people who contacted the
website and also from personal experiences, observations and analysis.
The intention of the book and
the website is to offer information, support, and practical ideas to help HSPs
and Non-HSPs overcome possible self-defeating behaviors. We also hope to clear
up some of the mysteries and
misunderstandings about highly sensitive people, and be a resource to HSPs and
the people in their lives. In addition, we'd like to help sensitive people learn
to celebrate, honor and "make friends" with their trait. We want to offer our
information not only to help HSPs, but also to help Non-HSPs better understand,
accept, appreciate and respect the unique gifts and qualities of the highly
sensitive people in their lives, and to help create an environment with more
understanding and love. We are honored that the website has received the Point
of Life Gold-Award of Excellence.
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